Wanda wonders
Friday, 20 August 2021
Old Draft
Just found this draft post written in 2015 - I cant remember who's sister died but this was when I was first away from my Welly community and missing them dearly. My beloved friend Lisa lost her Mum Olive, that her daughter Orewa was named after . It was the much respected Monica Cartner who had died and who we had mourned at a living wake some months previous. And yes I do remember the tragedy and systemic failures in the death of Samuel Fischer - whose mother had raged against the system as she tried to help him, she may have been a part of his problems but I love her steadfastness, the fact that she wore a wig and dressed as a vicar in a collar to visit him when she was trespassed from Te Whare Ahūru (poorly named) and to whom the DHB had to eventually issue an apology. It is now 2021 what I had once hoped to be my year of fun but which actually became my year of over coping, over responsibility that I had to learn to shed like layers of old coats in the spring so I could become light and fun loving again. Post from 2015 below...
Been a few deaths lately , feeling the sadness, a consumer battler colleague, someone who was an inpatient and a dear friends sister. That deep sense of sadness, at losses in my life, that or as someone put on Facebook this morning "I want my Mummy!"
Too far away to be part of the process and social media is really not the sort of "community " you need at times like this. Also I guess that "space" in my life that felt like an opportunity can also feel like an emptiness. That post mothering, post social justice, post consumer net-worker, who am I? space.
Another loneliness today doing law as it relates to nursing and I have no-one to roll my eyes with or be angry about the fact that people experiencing distress are so often the exception to every human right. Our progressive tutor pointed out that weekly checks for white blood cell counts are important for those on Clozapine when I'm yelling on the inside that its not okay to put people on drugs that will shorten their lives by 20+ years, and not look at alternatives.
Kinda craving solace, a phone call, missing old friends, who get me and who I love and there goes that question 'Do I bother people?' or more fundamentally "Am I worthy?'. After a bit of self care , curry in a packet, that feeling of well-being or comfort returns - now I can ring someone- and yes I spoke to an old comrade in arms about our lives and tomorrows funeral.
Saturday, 28 December 2019
Losing things
Saturday, 18 February 2017
Whangarei
Sidewalks steaming after rain
Cars, Christians, cops and coffees that come slow
Here country girls, heavily made up, shop at Shanton and Cotton On before a night out in town
And fitness fanatics jog up Parihaka or around The Basin Loop.
Home of yummy Korean food, big box retailing and houses painted with flowers
Criss-crossed by waterways with a scum on top
Run-off or rural trickle down perhaps
Who would've thought I would call you home
Wednesday, 1 April 2015
unexpected side effects of moving town
Sunday afternoon in the 'Rei
Eating medjool dates and
Pistachio nuts
From the Indian fruit shop
Outside the Fernery (open nine to four daily)
A couple are
Dancing by the public toilets
To the northern soul playing on the radio
Of their Jeep Cherokee
I guess my message is that you need to make your own fun in this town.